I spent years neglecting my self-care and as a result, I often felt low, drained and overwhelmed, especially when life threw extra obstacles and challenges my way.
I felt completely depleted with the overwhelming stresses of everyday life, but the concept of putting myself first, felt utterly selfish. I had two beautiful children to take of, they were my world and I wanted to put everything I had into them. But the truth was, I was only just about keeping my head above water and my lack of focus on myself, meant that I felt worn-out, exhausted, irritable, snappy and run down. In a nut shell, I wasn’t coping, and felt I was failing as a mum.
Does my story sound familiar?
This feeling of overwhelm and burnout, forced me down the route of self-care. I couldn’t carry on the way I was. So, I embarked on my self-care journey and as my children were growing and developing, so was I. I learnt that looking after myself and making time for me, actually made me a better parent. I became more energised, calmer, happier, excitable, and relaxed. Don’t get me wrong, I had my off days, I’m only human after all, but on those days, I recognised that it was a sign to take even more time for self-care. And that’s exactly what I did and continue to do and WITHOUT THE GUILT.
Self-care became such a significant focus in my life, my understanding of the importance of looking after myself changed dramatically, which in turn hugely influenced the way I worked with clients. I started to bring this more and more into sessions and was totally in awe of clients as they embarked on a journey where they actually considered themselves and thought about their own needs.
It’s interesting how my perspective about self-care has changed from seeing it as a selfish act, to truly believing that it’s actually selfish NOT to take care of yourself. When I take care of me……everyone benefits.
My own experiences, along with being a part of so many other people’s journey to improving the way that they look after themselves, is why I am so passionate about what I do.
The idea of developing a niche as a Self-Care Coach came not only from these experiences I’d encountered, but also through my work as a counsellor. I began to recognise that the lack of care that many clients had for themselves, was a big contributor to issues such as stress, depression and low self-esteem. When they came for counselling, they had already reached the point of burnout. As a Self-Care Coach I want to help people START NOW, so they don’t have to experience the consequences of not prioritising and looking after themselves.
Why leave it too late that we have to be forced to take care of ourselves. Why wait until we are so run down, there is no other option? My goal is to empower people to help improve their immunity, increase positive thinking and make them less susceptible to stress, depression, anxiety and other emotional health issues.