In a nutshell, self-care is just about anything you to do be good to yourself. It’s about being kind and treating yourself as you would the people you care about. It focuses on activities that you do deliberately in order to take care of your mental, emotional, and physical health and is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It’s also crucial to a good relationship with yourself and others.
In a world where we are preoccupied with the thoughts and actions of others, it’s alarmingly easy to forget about ourselves, however taking time out to care for ourselves, helps remind us and others that our needs are important too. Feeling well cared-for leads to feelings of calm and relaxation and conveys to others that we value ourselves, which contributes to longer-term feelings of healthy wellbeing.
Ask yourself…. ‘Are you being the best for your kids if you are feeling low, drained and overwhelmed? What more could you give to your children if you were firing on all cylinders? Don’t get me wrong, we do need to do certain tasks, after all the kids need clean underwear and food on the table, but what do you prioritise? Is getting to the bottom of your ironing pile and having an immaculate house more important that taking some time to nourish yourself?
Self-care isn’t a selfish act. It’s about understanding and meeting your own needs, and by doing so, subsequently being able to meet the needs of those you care for.
Early messages from childhood are absorbed about self-care and as parents, we are role models for our children. What are you teaching your children about taking care of themselves?
Also, what about the role of a wife/husband, daughter /son, brother/sister, friend etc……. how will prioritising your self-care benefit and impact on these relationships too. When we think of self-care in this way, it’s actually selfish NOT to practice it
Consider this for moment. Work-related stress, depression and anxiety are becoming more and more common features in the ever changing and demanding roles in the workplace. The pressures and strains placed on employees at work, is what largely contributed to 15.4 million days of sickness being taken during 2107/18. So as a point of reflection, how do we begin to cope with this, if we do not look after ourselves? Of course, it’s important to our career and development, that we work hard and strive to do our best, but again, how do we do that when we are running on empty. Changing small daily habits can have a massive impact on our overall wellbeing.